Have you ever felt impatient? Felt like you’re stuck or that you want to be “there” already?  I don’t think I am alone in this — or there would not be expressions like “A watched pot never boils.”  

Okay, eventually it will boil… but standing there watching it … it seems to take forever. 

So what’s it like to be in that in-between place? That place where we are here … and not quite at our destination. For some, it may be no big deal, and for others it can be a very different story.

WHAT

We might get discouraged when we have to wait for something, like news about getting a job or waiting for results from a medical test. We may even tell ourselves “I can’t stand waiting any longer” (I am thinking of the lyrics from a Tom Petty song about waiting being the hardest part.)

Are you able to be Zen about it? Or does your inner 3 year old scream, “Are we there yet!?!?!” Sometimes we would rather push the thoughts, feelings, and uncomfortable experiences away. How we do this… well, the options are endless aren’t they? 

Some people end up “mood altering” with excessive amounts of alcohol, or using retail shopping to-the-max, …etc.  

CHECK

Is it in excess? Or in moderation?

I worked with someone who was very upset about losing her job (understandable, right) … and she turned to food for comfort.  

It started to become a problem for her when she gained so much weight that she could not fit into her clothes, and needed to buy new clothes to interview in. She didn’t like the weight gain and she didn’t exactly want to spend money when she was out of a job.

Ok, no excess… got it. Now what?

There are other ways to positively shift our moods. 

HOW?  

Think about…

What have you done in the past that put you into a peace-filled state? Where did you go? What did you do?  Can you try that now?

• For me, I am at peace when walking in nature.  Costs me next to nothing to get there, and I always seem to be rewarded. What ever was troubling me beforehand… is either put into perspective or I have more clarity and energy to address it.
• Sometimes it can help shift our mood by watching a movie.  One that will whisk you away to another time and place. What are your favorites?  
• For perspective on life… and reminding me to be grateful, I might watch “Life or Something Like it,” or “Big Fish.”
• For inspiration I’ve watched movies like “The King’s Speech” and “Music Within.” 

So, what if you’ve done what you can do, then what?

Ok, I am going to say it, and our inner-3-years-olds might not want to hear it… so let’s cover their ears…  

Sometimes… it just takes time.  I look to nature for her examples…

It

takes a while

before the baby bird gets out of the egg. Time − for that bird to gain strength,

to grow, and

develop in

the nest.

Time to 

learn

how

to

fly

.

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